Struggle Struggle Struggle!!!
I’m smoking again.
It’s been one of those weeks if you know what I mean. Work, kids, Ex husband, money and the dog is driving me crazy.
Not one thing in there is an excuse to smoke.
We’re trying to get things done on the house that was agreed in our settlement. It’s not easy for me or for him to have to work on the house that he no longer lives in or owns and that makes me very sad that he is hurting so much.
The thing is that these things are not an excuse but a reason of why I can’t stay focused on what I need to stay focused on and that’s not smoking. As all of you know it takes all of our strength and focus to be able to quit smoking and I just don’t have it. My focus is all over the freakin place. Each time I think things are settling down they start all over again. At those times is when I try to quit again.
A guy at work teases me on how much I quit and start smoking again. I see his point in a way. Everyone must think “What the Hell is she doing”? One day she quits smoking and 3, 4 or 7 days later she’s smoking again. The reason being is that I don’t want to smoke. I hate it and I’m having a hard time quitting.
You guys are so awesome and I hope I don’t discourage anyone. The point of these blogs is quite the opposite of that.
You guys are doing great. Big Hugs to All.
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I would like to advise using an ecigarette but then your blog would not last much longer and the drama lost!! Although you could blog your progress throughout… hope you find the right reasons to quit and the right device… ecig!
Hello Tammy
It's very important you stop when having a trigger, to figure out what caused it in the first place. For most part from what I seen you described, it sounds to me that stress got the better of you. Remember in times of stressful events that you mind will ask you for help in relaxing, all these years you have used the cigarette to give you permission to breathe. Every puff you took was a deep breath and was 80% oxygen; you may try using an aroma therapy oil to give you that same permission to breath.
You must break all the associations you have made in your life time as a smoker.
Good Luck in your efforts
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When one is a smoker and is thinking of quitting, it is imperative to stay focus. There is no logic when one backslides and picks up the habit again as your family’s health and yours is at risk. Do not make any excuses to yourself or to others as stopping smoking depends on your inner strength and the will power to give up.
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SMOKING SOMETHING WITHOUT THE CHEMICALS IN CIGARETTES MIGHT BE A GREAT WAY TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL BETTER.
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I guess the thing is that there are always moments when we think about smoking, but those moments pass as quickly as they come.
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Well another week comes to a close, thank god its Friday, thats all I can say. I have really struggled this week, wanted to smoke so badly. I can’t smoke because I promised myself a trip to Italy if I gave up and as I have already booked theres no going back. Have a great weekend everyone and I think I will join Jo in a bottle of red as well.
Hi all – Peggy, good to hear from you again, I wondered where you’d gone! I can also relate to what you have said about separation and divorce, its a very difficult and devastating time.
And i found exactly the same as you said – in a way its worse than death, because someone’s still there, but not there for you. For me the first year was the worst,I was kind of on the edge, and then its just that old chestnut, time, that does the healing.
Neil thank you for your kind words, sometimes I feel more like DESPERATION than inspiration!!, but the encouragement is great thanks. My biggest challenge has been my eldest, who is autistic and 17 – he’s nearly there, and now Meg has been diagnosed at age 2, so its kind of like past the winning line with Dan, and then all the way back to the starting line with Meg. By the time Meg’s 18, I’ll be very proficient in the care of autistic offspring!!
Darlene, I’m still working on a suitable title for your guru-ness, and Peggy will need one too because she’s been quit around 4 months too. I shall work on this over a bottle of red tonight and let you know the result.
Fred, C, Molly, Peter and all others have a great day.
Hi All, haven’t been on in a bit. We had our grandson here from California and we live in Florida. It was a wonderful week, but it came and went too quickly! I am almost 4 months smoke free and haven’t had that much junkie thinking until recently. I’ve been having a lot of cravings in the past couple of days and I truly don’t know why? I don’t give into them however, I just wait until the crave passes which is pretty quickly. Its like a momentary thought of “gee wouldn’t a cigarette be nice?” and then my saner self says “NO WAY!” I’m so sorry you are still struggling Tammy. I think that you should give yourself about six months before you attempt to quit. You’ve got too much going on in your life right now and you need to be truly free to committ to a quit. I don’t think this emotional crisis time is it, and I believe you know that. I would feel so frustrated if it were me and I was quitting and starting over and over again. I guess that’s why I didn’t quit until I was a bit more settled in my life. I would suggest that perhaps you get wellbutrin for depression and maybe that will help you in the future. It is a generic for zyban and it will compensate for the “bitchiness” we feel when we quit. I just would give myself some time to get through such a major change as you are going through without trying to quit smoking on top of it. I doubt if you are enjoying feeling like a failure and even though I don’t believe you are one, I would feel that way myself so I’m putting myself into your shoes. Life sucks right now and you need to be settled before you can quit. My heart goes out to you, divorce is not easy and its a life altering thing. It is worse than death in some ways, because the person is still here and yet you feel like someone died. So much has changed and yet its not easy. I know, been there and done that! Hang in and give yourself the healing tme before you attempt to quit again. That’s my advice and I will be here if you need me.
Hey, was just kidding on the quote from Brooke. I think most of the stars are out of their minds. But, that is just my opinion. Neil, it goes uphill from here. At least, it should. Usually at 3 months, it seems such an important landmark. They say it takes 21 days or times to make it a new habit. So, Congrats, it should get better. & I am no guru either. Just happy with the length of my quit, that’all. Now, I am prepping my self for a Kentucky Derby party at my friends house (who all smoke). I figure, I just have to get through 3 or 4 urges and not drink too much at this party. Like Fred said, Don’t want to mess up a good quit at this time. I have come way too far, to screw it up at this point. D
Afternooon all…
I’m happy to report today is my 3 week quit anniversary! I only hope that as the days go on, things get easier and easier. For now its still one day at a time for me.
And good on YOU Jo to keep with the plot and get back to your quit. I can only imagine what you go through on a daily basis with the kids – you’re quite the inspiration!!!
(along with Darlene and Fred – our resident gurus)
Well, in spite of her cottage cheese cranium syndrome, she’s certainly better off than this little black duck ever will be!! I can remember her in “Endless Love”, God help me, how old am I?! and I think Christopher Atkins may have been even dimmer than Brookesy.
Fred,I think that is a great title to add to your CV – the Nehru Guru – how cool is that?? Have to find a suitable one for Darlene now, and you’re both launched as stars!!
Tammy, its about time we had some interjection from you – hope all is OK, and not too much crap piling up. Let us know how you are……..
Pullleeeease!
She’s a dim bulb.
Pretty face, but nothing between the ears but cottage cheese.
I mean, you DID read her comment, right? That sounds like something an seven-year-old might say.
Guru? Cool. never been a guru. Think I left a Nehru jacket laying about here somewhere …. where did I put that ………
Hey, I am doing fine. I like the quote from Brooke. Tammy we need an update from you soon. Hope everything is well. 116 days for me. Almost 4 months coming up. Jo, get right back to it, you have the right attitude. It IS nicer being a non smoker all around. You just have to keep remembering that and not have a short memory on why we decided to quit in the first place.
Fred!! You’re being a bit tough on Brookesy……
Hi, have sorted out problems with computer – teenagers think they own it!
Neil, to reply to your question – I have resumed my quit – whilst on holiday, I stretched to an average one cig per day, and now I’m home, its back to normal. I have not lost my focus – rather I have regained some.
Some of our older bloggers would know that I had some intense stress recently with daughter’s medical diagnosis, and other issues, and I got through that smoke free. I intend to remain smoke-free and I am CERTAINLY aware that its all too easy to completely lose the plot, and the quit!
But I feel secure in resumption as a non-smoker, and I go on from here, I’m certainly not going to bash myself about the head because of the very few I had on a much needed holiday.
Besides I actually prefer being a non-smoker in my usual life. Keep up your good work Neil, you are doing really well, and you are really wise quitting whilst your younger – and to Darlene and Fred, our gurus, well done guys.
“Smoking kills. If you’re killed, you’ve lost a very important part of your life.”
–Brooke Shields, American actress (in an interview to become an anti-smoking spokesperson)
“Brooke Shields is a thimble-witted gurken – a twit.”
–Fred the former smoker
Fred – its time for an inspring quote for all of us!!!
Jus testing – having problems with computer
Hi all,
I’ve been away from the blog for a while, but its great to be back and to see how many people have maintained their quit. I’ve found it to be the most difficult thing I’ve ever done, but I’ve managed it and am nearly completing the fourth month without a cigarette. Curiously I don’t feel any healthier, and don’t notice things like an enhanced sense of taste or smell. But I do know that my bank balance is much healthier (as am I), and I find the junkie cravings diminishing.
The inner junkie still plays games, especially on holidays. In particular, the junkie thoughts keep trying to tell me that a cigar isn’t the same as a cigarette, and that I could safely enjoy the occasional cigar without becoming addicted. Then the sensible part of me remembers that this was what I thought about cigarettes many years ago.
Best wishes to you all, and in particular to Tammy — I hope everything works out for you.
Peter